Black women in the US marry less than others - and the numbers are even lower for darker skinned black women. Is colorism — favoring lighter skin — to blame? Dream McClinton puts herself on the line to report. I take a deep breath and ready my fingers. I admonish myself for being theatrical about something so mundane. Another deep breath.
Strong Black Women seem to find it extremely challenging to find a worthy mate, companion, or life partner. Even when they do meet a suitable person of interest many times because of his emotional or past challenges, we the men take ourselves out of the game. One of the things I hear the most from women is, "I'm not going to raise a grown man. Once she feels like she's starting to settle or lower her standards in the relationship or dating phase her guard goes up and the distance begins.
I was not surprised to hear sconcing at a university dinner. But I was horrified at the racial, sexual and aggressive undertones of the sconce, displayed in such a public manner. Where are you from? Yet, I have also been confronted by many who have boldly declared their disgust at my being both black and a woman.