Grief is a deeply personal process. But eventually, we're quite likely to consider the possibility of romance again. Our experts explain why this isn't always easy. Losing someone we love is one of the hardest things we have to face in life. But eventually, once we're ready, it's highly likely we'll consider the possibility of finding love again. And this can happen at any age.
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Life Decisions to Delay While Grieving
We uncover some common fears about what a new relationship might mean for you, and try to smooth the way to better days. Every response to loss is unique, just as every relationship is, and the only timescale you have to worry about is your own. Do you compare every potential date with your late partner, but no one comes close? Or does the thought of being intimate with someone fill you with guilt? However, if you well up at the mere thought of your late spouse, then perhaps look for friendship before looking for love — one can sometimes follow the other, but taking it slowly takes the pressure off.
If you're grieving the death of a spouse or close family member, now isn't the time for major life decisions. Given the emotional and physical toll a death can have on survivors, it's far from the best time to make serious decisions. In particular, one should avoid making any major changes during the mourning period, if at all possible. If you're thinking of selling your home or moving because a loved one died, you should delay this decision for at least six months, if possible, because of the other stressors you're likely also experiencing.
HopefulGirl, how soon do you think is too soon to start dating after being widowed? That showed me! If a loved one is ill for a long time, we sometimes do much of our grieving before they die, and may be ready to move on more quickly. In fact, he did start dating someone just three months after his wife died.