But, that's not true, as I'm sure you and I both know people perhaps yourself! Though being on dating apps may seem like the norm, that's not the case with everybody — people meet partners in real life all the time. For instance, I did Appless April , Bustle's challenge to take delete your dating apps for a month and ended up loving it. After all, meeting future dates in person, without the help of an app, is natural and faster — you omit all the back-and-forth, the matches who just want to be pen-pals, the matches who ghost
All I have to show for it is a pocket full of stories of being ghosted , stood up, and even having a guy run out on the bill! Everyone is glued to their phones. Online dating gives people too many options of who to date. People have lost their attention spans. I want human contact. The more and more people get comfortable with using dating apps, the less and less human contact I seem to get.
I've always liked the idea of online dating. Maybe it's because of You've Got Mail which isn't that great but man, that was, like, the dream of the '90s or because I was obsessed with coding as a teen shut up, I was so cool, you guys or because I work too much or because I'm hardly ever at bars unless I'm performing and even then, when someone hits on me it's like throwing flirtation into the wind and hoping it lands somewhere near my brain. I don't pick up on it.
Sounds like a pain in the ass, right? You make online dating profiles, then forget they exist. You start out with good intentions of putting yourself out there and doing the online dating thing like everyone else. You cancel first dates a lot.